WTF

For those of you who know me well, you may be wondering what’s been going on with me.Through the Knothole: Quickly isolate and move past obstacles, promptly improve an underperforming team  On the professional side, check out the awesome update.  On the personal side (with a few life lessons thrown in for good measure), here’s the deal…

It’s been a tumultuous year:
– My husband and I decided to get unmarried (it sounds SO much better than getting divorced but after 23 years married it is still a painfully difficult transition that we are working through with love and humor.)
– Our house was robbed and though I’m a woman of EXTREMELY simple tastes (so virtually no financial loss) I am heartbroken to have lost my wedding rings and hand-me-downs from my great grandmother.
– Our cat was run over – literally – and (unfortunately/fortunately) lived to tell the tale. Tail is intact but he’s crooked for the rest of his eight lives.
– One of my three fabulous children went through a bout of pretty significant anxiety symptoms and was refusing to go to school which challenged me to exercise all my parenting, communication, influence and motivation muscles every morning for a couple of months.

WTF
Seriously.  By December I was done.  Tired.  Exhausted. Overwhelmed. At the end of my tether.

Slacking
As a result of all this mayhem in my life, I was finding myself behind on emails, relationship maintenance, invoicing, housework, school work, fundraising, and fun.  My middle child even asked, “How can we get fun, funny mom back?”. Sigh….How indeed.

What helped?

– Friends.  Good lord how I love my friends.  I didn’t realize until all this craziness how valuable my friendships are and how much love and support can come from saying “I am done. I need help.”  Thank you to all of you.

– Energy Drainer Exercises.  I’m telling you I would be in McLean’s right now in a straight jacket sipping broth through a straw if it weren’t for the head-clearing, forward-moving, clarity-providing results of the Motivation Factor energy drainer exercise.  As Dory says: “Just keep swimming… Just keep swimming…”

– Perspective. I do not live in a war torn country. I am not being bombed or gassed. I have choices. In fact, I have a comfy home in a lovely town in a wonderful country and the resources to get through pretty much anything.

– Wine. Nuff said.

– Patient clients and colleagues.  Thank you, thank you, thank you to all of you who have been patiently standing by waiting for my return call, email, newsletter or next program. I know I’ve been less than responsive.  I know we have incredible opportunities to do amazing things together.  We will.  I just needed a sec.

Next Steps
I took a few weeks to step back, gain perspective and right the ship.  I had to make some tough decisions about what I can/want and can’t/don’t want to do.  I used the Motivation Factor framework to remind myself of what is nourishing to me, how I can best contribute and of what is most purposeful in my life. One of the biggest changes, as you may know, is that I sold Uncommon Consulting to my old company and am now employed by IDG Research doing something NEW and DIFFERENT (More about that here).

So. Thank you for your patience and your support. I am SO excited about the things to come in my work. I am SO grateful for all of you – you who read this blog, who are my clients, who are my colleagues, you who want to inspire yourself and others to generate and bask in meaningful work.  Thank you.

Wishing you peace in the present and resilience forever.
– Julie

2 thoughts on “WTF

  1. Hi Julie,
    I am so sorry to hear about your difficult time and not at all surprised you handled it in an amazingly powerful way!

    I know it wasn’t easy and we all need to go through what we need to go through to get where we need to be. You have a great spirit which will always serve you well.

    I am delighted to hear about your new professional situation. Sounds perfect. My best wishes for your continued success.

    Maureen

  2. Wow, Julie. You are a rare wonderful person with vibrant spiritual gifts that jump right off the web. You have inspired me more times than I can say.

    Congratulations on keeping YOU intact through such a hard, turbulent year. Good for you for taking the personal time you need. The fun mommy is not gone, just recharging.

    Congratulations on your new merger and big warm wishes from a huge fan in Alexandria VA.

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